Is there anyone out there who thinks that by making others come first on his/her priority list, those people will be appreciative to them? One day.. Sometime?!! If yes, I say to you CHERISH THE THOUGHT! Shall I say it louder? May be use some larger font? Those people whom you are putting first on your list might not always treat you the same way you treated them once… or may be even millions of times! See you have to come first. One of the companies are having their moto as “Raise Yourself To Help Mankind” I think that moto sums it all. That’s due to a simple fact; you cannot help others’ while you are not whole in the first place. Do I make sense to you? Let me explain with an example. Whenever you take a flight to anywhere around the world, the flight attendants show up demonstrating those safety guidelines. There is this part about the oxygen masks. If you are accompanying a child, first put “your” mask on and then help the child with his/her mask. If you didn’t do in the recommended order, there is a chance that “you” won’t make it to the end! I think this example serves the purpose. We are surrounded by people around us who make others come first in their life but what do they get in return? Pretty much nothing, in most cases,
A mother dedicating her whole life to her children to the extent that she wouldn’t buy herself some new outfits! She says that it’s a better investment to keep the money for the children needs. Instead she takes whatever her friends spare and decide to give to "Goodwill", LINK, to use. The outcome you ask? The teenager daughter is ashamed of her won mother popping up in her school. The daughter’s friends make fun of her mom and how untidy her outlook is! Whom to blame? The daughter or the mother?
Another scene: An employee dedicates the best days of his life to the company they are enrolled in when s/he was only 22 years old. The poor guy followed his father's advice, Study hard! Get a job and stay loyal to your company! That’s what his father used to repeatedly say to him and so did the son/daughter. The outcome? You ask, again? A dismissal slip along with a lousy gift for the hard work and dedication of thirty years of service or so...
You my dear seem to be a fighter, huh? Another example, Is that what you want? You got it! A lover staying loyal to their partner as no body else has ever done before. The poor lover thought in silence:” If I try my best to make my partner happy all the time, listened to them and made them laugh, I will never lose them! It doesn’t matter if I don’t approve whatever they say, does it? It’s not worth to make them getting angry over trivial issues. They will remember all the times I was there for them! “
Time passes by and the day comes when it’s all over between the two.
As they say, the way you are is due to two things: nature and nurture. I think the majority of us, correct me if I am wrong, have been raised to believe that we have to sacrifice. We need to please the people around us. Without paying much attention to the fact that we need to please ourselves in the first place. If one feels like a whole from the inside and well balanced, s/he won’t need to please others or strive for their attention and affection.
